Whether we were tramping over mountains in our hiking boots, cuddled up on the sofa in front of a roaring fire watching a TV box set or out at a smart Kensington restaurant I felt equally content.So when two years ago my husband, motor racing entrepreneur Jonathan Ashman walked out on our marriage without notice or explanation I was, for the first time in my life, utterly heartbroken.Spurred on by the optimism that the New Year brings, 1 million Britons are expected to get online for a date today - the first day back in the office after the Christmas break.This time last year saw a 94 per cent increase in people singing up compared to their daily average.'In my experience, selfies on dating sites either involve the guy snapping a quick picture of himself as he loads his profile (no effort made) or stripping off in a desperate attempt to show off his buff body while trying out a moody male model look (far too much effort made).Business Insider obtained a PDF guide that is sold online for just £2.59.
'It's encouraging when you see a profile where a man specified books, music and fitness as interests because it makes them appear well rounded,' says online dater Lauren Keith, who is currently dating someone she met on Plenty Of Fish.'It's off-putting when a man only seems interested in going out with his mates and getting drunk.
He, however, was my only husband and I’d intended our commitment to be a lifelong one, which is why I felt so bruised and miserable after his desertion. In fact I’m among an increasing number of ‘silver’ divorcees who are bucking a national trend: while separations among younger couples are steadily falling, the over-55s is the only age group in which divorce rates continue to rise.
I thought he was my rock, but I discovered, although he wasn’t unfaithful, Jonathan was guilty of deceiving me. So more and more older singletons are dating again.
Life has an unerring capacity to surprise us and the end of my marriage was one of those unforeseeable shocks.
After eight blissful years it seemed — to me at least — that our relationship was unassailable.